A woman who had stayed in 16 years of marriage with her alleged infertile husband, begged a Customary Court in Ibadan, Oyo State capital to dissolve their marriage.
Explaining her ordeal on Tuesday, December 15, Mrs Toyin Bello told the court that her legally married husband, Dotun Bello, had not slept with her for close to ten years.
Mrs Bello accused her partner of being irresponsible. Narrating the genesis of their marital problem, she told the court that she compromised her Christian faith by sleeping with another man after she found out he is infertile.
According to her, she got concerned after she could not conceive for her husband about six years following the loss of their first child. In an attempt to save her husband from public ridicule, the fish seller said she decided to meet another man to put her in the family way.
“With age not on my side any longer, I did the needful by secretly getting pregnant for another man so as to make him happy. Immediately after delivery, Dotun started misbehaving as he became grossly irresponsible and hostile to me and to the child.
“In fact, for the past 10 years now, he hasn’t slept on the same bed with me let alone touch me and I’m already feeling the trauma. Despite Dotun’s disaffection and irresponsibility to me,
he is also taking steps to kill me so as to inherit my house and claim the child that doesn’t belong to him.”
“That is the reason why I have fled home to start sleeping in our church at Asi area in Ibadan.
“My lord, I cannot continue to waste my time with Dotun; age is no longer on my side; please dissolve our union,’’ Toyin cried.
On his part, while responding to the woman’s demand, Mr Bello begged the court to help pacify his wife because she was a rare gem. He admitted to once having a low sperm count, but he noted that he had since taken care of himself.
He said, “My lord, Toyin denied me my conjugal rite most of the times, usually complaining that she was tired having worked all through the day. In fact, there was a particular night I broke the door into her bedroom, but she was shouting that I wanted to rape her.
“The only mistake I made was that I didn’t report the incident to her relatives,” he stated.
Chief Henry Agbaje , the Court President after hearing from both side, adjourned the case to Dec. 29 for further hearing.